What type of supports I would want

What support means to me? When I first thought of this question on Monday I really didn’t know what to say and though that this was a very hard question for me. Today it is Friday and now I feel as though I have a better understanding on what support means to me. Yesterday I found out that one of my best friend’s boyfriend who has been fighting cancer for little over a year now has just weeks to live. I thought a lot about support yesterday, not only support for myself but support for others around me. So to answer the question, support means to me is to be there for someone for anything that’s needed. It means having to support some emotionally whatever type of emotion that might be from mad, sad to happy. You need to support by having the person back no matter what is going on. Would also need support by helping out in any way possible by going and even doing something that you might not want to do. You also need to support someone by also respecting there wishes, even if you don’t agree with them. When it comes to support I just think its all about supporting a person for whatever they might need at the time. The point about supporting someone is it’s about them. It is not about you at all. So you have/need to respect what they want even if you don’t like it or agree with it. So a challenge that I’m going to give myself that I currently don’t have is the challenge my friend is in right now. Even though I hope that I will never be in this situation myself. I hate that my friend has to be in this situation that’s she in, but for this blog I wanted to try to put myself in her situation. So trying to put myself in her shoes, when the doctor told us about the news I would want to find some support within myself. I know that I would need to have my own support to just be there for him as well as telling my loved ones and friends. Second after telling my loved ones and friends, I would want to have emotional support from my friends. I would want to be able to cry with them, to tell them how unfair it is, just to yell scream and do whatever I needed to do emotionally to make myself strong for him. Second I would want my family to take care of all of the phone calls that I just couldn’t handle or just didn’t want to deal with at the moment. Who ever this person might be I would want someone to deal with all the bills, house and taking care of my animals, so I could spend every second of every moment with him. I would also want someone to support me to do things that I know I have to do for myself but won’t want to do because I just won’t want to. This I mean, taking a shower, making sure I am eating and drinking fluids and make sure I take care of myself. I would also want someone to handle letting everyone else know what’s going on during this time. I would also want a lot of prayers sent his way. I think last I can think of is just having someone in the room with me and just supporting both of us. It wouldn’t have to be the same person and I wouldn’t care if they even said a word, just the idea of knowing that someone is there with us and having there support. I know that for my friend her wishes for support might be different than my would be and I am being whatever type of support she wants and needs from me right now and in her future.